To the Firm’s Founder: This is impossible, you know? The decision was irrational.

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

I’m trained for management also. Unlike the perpetrator I’m highly competent at it. It’s impossible that I would fail to notice the vast majority of team members pretending to misunderstand me. And, you were doing the same thing.

Now, within a few weeks of my becoming affiliated with the firm team members began observing the fact that there was, “something weird” about my frequent meetings with the perpetrator. You all were pretending to misunderstand me because you believed his arbitrary and unfounded judgment that I’m manipulative. Obviously, he had a motive to discredit me. Believing his judgment blindly was irrational.

To the Firms Founder: You do know the perpetrators motive.

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

You and I had a conversation in the resource room. I told you that he had specified that I stop helping and training other agents. Regardless of the nature of the abuse the motive was professional jealousy.

To the Firms Founder: Low class right? Times change! (language warning)

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

The language that I’m using on my blog is low class, right? I have a nasty newsflash for you. My generation sees classism with distaste like your generation saw racism and sexism with distaste. Obviously we still have problems racism and sexism, this situation being an excellent example of the latter, but honestly, someone from my generation will crack the fuck up!

There is a second factor here and its victim blaming. That used to be the norm in situations like this and to some degree still is. But, Amnesty International is calling for the silence around violence against women to be broken. Victim blaming is quickly becoming socially unacceptable and there is also a lot of respect for women not remaining silent at this point in time. Times change!

To my Mentor: I want to tell you a secret! (language warning)

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

There is something *fucking* wrong with most of those people! Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone that I said that! 😀

To the Perpetrator: Yes, you made a mistake when you pulled the control.

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

Immediately before you became violently verbally abusive on the last occasion you said, “Did I make a mistake when I?”

You didn’t complete the sentence but the next logical phrase would have been, “pulled the control?”

You finally had the epiphany when I told you that I hadn’t attempted to set up a sales business due to the volatile and unhealthy nature of our relationship. I specifically referenced the fact that you and I were unable to resolve conflict.

The answer is yes, you made a mistake when you pulled the control. For future reference, what big people do is apologize for mistakes and do everything within their power to fix them!

To: Whatever Team Members Said This! (language warning)

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

So, during my first week at the company I carried myself with my typical level of confidence. Apparently a few of you were complaining that I shouldn’t do that because I was, “just a rental agent.”

Now, feeling an inherent need to look down on others in order to feel good about ones self is completely pathetic. Grow up and get some fucking self esteem!

Oh yea, what the perpetrator of the assault was trying his best to make sure that no one found out is that the one thing that I’m as good at as renting apartments is management. Last I checked, that’s the more important skill!

To the Perpetrator: And by the way…

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

That material isn’t right for you. If you aren’t willing to be very honest then it won’t work. It’s deeply unfortunate that you tested that rule with me and even more unfortunate that you abused me. You didn’t think that I’d be able to do anything about it, did you?

To the Perpetrator: Really now?

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

At one point you were giving me advice on how to interact with a client. You said, “You will feel it.”

I certainly don’t need advice on how to follow my intuition from you, enough said!

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To the Perpetrator: I don’t think so!

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

I am extremely detail oriented by nature. You are careless and disregard detail. You attacked that strength and tried to persuade me to emulate you in that regard. Obviously you were intentionally attacking all of my strengths but I heard you criticize the same strength in another agent as well.

Imposing your own bad habits and weaknesses on your team members is ineffective management, period.