To the Perpetrator: Yes, you made a mistake when you pulled the control.

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

Immediately before you became violently verbally abusive on the last occasion you said, “Did I make a mistake when I?”

You didn’t complete the sentence but the next logical phrase would have been, “pulled the control?”

You finally had the epiphany when I told you that I hadn’t attempted to set up a sales business due to the volatile and unhealthy nature of our relationship. I specifically referenced the fact that you and I were unable to resolve conflict.

The answer is yes, you made a mistake when you pulled the control. For future reference, what big people do is apologize for mistakes and do everything within their power to fix them!

To my Mentor: OMFG, how funny!

Quick preface: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

I saw one of my childhood BFF’s in person for the first time in ten years yesterday! Since I’m writing Manage and Speak I remember a lot of detail about our initial interaction. I told her that you didn’t hire me your manager did and that he warned me that you, “Could be a little scary at first but that most of your employees like you once they get to know you.”

Now I know that this is keeping control through leadership, but I digress. Anyway she immediately said, “You probably just considered that a challenge.”

I laughed and affirmed her statement. I added, “We had a stare down the second or third time that I saw him. When I didn’t back down he laughed. Then he made rules that no one manage me in a traditional fashion and that I report directly to him.”

I thought that it was cool that she would anticipate that! I’m so happy to be back in contact with her! I missed her terribly!