To The Perpetrator: Over communication?

what a piece of shit

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You informed me repeatedly that I have a serious challenge with, “over communicating.”

Certainly I was acting erratic, and that included over communicating, while I was having a traumatic stress breakdown. But, anyone will act erratic when they are in a state of duress. You made the judgment that I, “over communicate” prior to my having a traumatic stress breakdown due to your causing me a state of duress intentionally.

I’m trained in Bennis’ leadership style. Openness is a leadership skill. But, I can completely see how a predatory individual would perceive it as a weakness.

Quick note to readers: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

 

To The Perpetrator: Your judgment was inaccurate and your behavior was predatory.

A mantis eating a bee. Location: Saitama, Japan

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You informed me repeatedly that I have a, “challenge with setting and respecting boundaries.”

Your observation was inaccurate. I’m neither abusive nor a passive victim.

However, you perceived a weakness. The only person who has literally disrespected every major boundary that I have set with them is you. And, in order to be effective at keeping me in a disrespectful relationship you had to literally cause me a state of duress. This isn’t acceptable professional behavior.

Exploiting a perceived weakness is predatory.

Quick note to readers: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.