To the Perpetrator: Seriously?

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You informed me repeatedly that I have a serious challenge with, “Protecting my own interests.”

In our initial meeting I told you that I, “Offer the highest level of service and consultation in the market…am competent to generate more business than I can handle on my own and am always willing to walk away from the business.”

The above is the best way for a real estate agent to protect their interests. I’ll illustrate that point to you as your competition.

To The Perpetrator: Over communication?

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You informed me repeatedly that I have a serious challenge with, “over communicating.”

Certainly I was acting erratic, and that included over communicating, while I was having a traumatic stress breakdown. But, anyone will act erratic when they are in a state of duress. You made the judgment that I, “over communicate” prior to my having a traumatic stress breakdown due to your causing me a state of duress intentionally.

I’m trained in Bennis’ leadership style. Openness is a leadership skill. But, I can completely see how a predatory individual would perceive it as a weakness.

Quick note to readers: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

 

To The Perpetrator: Your judgment was inaccurate and your behavior was predatory.

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You informed me repeatedly that I have a, “challenge with setting and respecting boundaries.”

Your observation was inaccurate. I’m neither abusive nor a passive victim.

However, you perceived a weakness. The only person who has literally disrespected every major boundary that I have set with them is you. And, in order to be effective at keeping me in a disrespectful relationship you had to literally cause me a state of duress. This isn’t acceptable professional behavior.

Exploiting a perceived weakness is predatory.

Quick note to readers: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.

 

To The Perpetrator: Every voice matters including mine! (language warning)

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Every voice matters including mine, mother fucker!

You and the entire management team counted on my silence. As little as a decade ago a woman’s only option was the mainstream media.

Guess what, modern technology makes it exposing the truth simple!

I may well go to the main stream media also. But, I’m taking this excellent opportunity to illustrate the point.

The primary reason that women remain silent about harassment and assault is fear or retaliation. Frequently we fear the company or educational institution as badly as the perpetrator, and for excellent reason. In “Transparency” Warren Bennis observes that the ease of publishing that the blog sphere provides makes a lot of the ways that companies traditionally retaliated ineffective.

Moreover, I have a little fucking news flash for you. What the public wants is to see the silence around sexual assault, sexual harassment and domestic abuse broken. And, most people don’t like people like you, at all!

It’s worthy of note that this is tagged comedy and creative non-fiction. My best guess is that the average world citizen will find it amusing.

Some might even respect me for it!

Quick note to readers: “Workplace Issues” is a work of creative nonfiction based on my true story of being bullied. It’s told in a series of open letters.