My mentor warned me that as soon as you began managing me in a traditional fashion I would, “feel it” and it would, “hurt.”
Within less than a week of becoming affiliated with the firm I said to you, “I do not like the way that you are managing me. I know how to do that for myself.”
You replied by asking if my mentor had taught me to manage myself. I replied, “Yes it’s an important rule that” he made in the year that I met him. “I do that for other people but no one does that for me. I do not like it and if you do not stop then I will not stay!”
You ended the meeting abruptly. Once we were visible to other parties you said to me, “Go ahead, it will be okay.”
You acted as if you were reassuring me because I was insecure professionally or socially.
The truth is that I had said yet another thing that threatened you professionally.
For the last time, the answer is yes. He taught me to manage myself as defined by Peter F Drucker, the single most respected management theorist who ever lived.
I can see why you would feel threatened by that. But it isn’t an excuse for abusive behavior, at all.
And, you didn’t operate within confines of law!